The NHS defines counselling as:
“A talking therapy that involves a trained therapist listening to you and helping you find ways to deal with emotional issues.”
There are therefore a number of aspects to counselling. For example, it is important that the process is about helping you to find ways to deal with your problems, rather than giving advice or telling you what to do.
There are a number of things that it is generally agreed that counselling is, and a number of others that it is not.
Counselling is:
The process that occurs when a client and counsellor set aside time to explore difficulties which may include the stressful or emotional feelings of the client.
The act of helping the client to see things more clearly, possibly from a different view-point. This can enable the client to focus on feelings, experiences or behaviour, with a goal of facilitating positive change.
A relationship of trust. Confidentiality is paramount to successful counselling. Professional counsellors will usually explain their policy on confidentiality. They may, however, be required by law to disclose information if they believe that there is a risk to life.
Counselling is not:
Giving advice.
Being judgemental.
Attempting to sort out the problems of the client.
Expecting or encouraging a client to behave as the counsellor would behave if confronted with a similar problem in their own life.
Getting emotionally involved with the client.
Looking at a client’s problems from our own perspective, based on our own value system.
Counselling
I work with individuals who are experiencing personal difficulties, to help them overcome their problems and to make positive changes to their lives.
The nature of problems I encounter varies and could include: depression; anxiety; the need to manage harmful emotions and behaviours, or difficulties with coping with traumatic experience and events. I work with people wanting to leave abusive relationships and coercive control and release traumas from their past. Sometimes this is done with counselling, although we will often agree to use some of my other therapies in conjunction with the counselling.
The Role of the Counsellor
No two people understand the same language in the same way; their understanding will always be linked to their personal experience of the world. The role of the counsellor, therefore, is to help the client develop their own understanding of their situation.
I enable my client to explore aspects of their life and feelings, by talking openly and freely. Talking like this is rarely possible with family or friends, who are likely to be emotionally involved and have opinions and biases that may affect the discussion. Talking to a counsellor gives clients the opportunity to express difficult feelings such as anger, resentment, guilt and fear in a confidential environment.
I may encourage the client to examine parts of their lives that they may have found difficult or impossible to face before. There may be some exploration of early childhood experiences to throw some light on why an individual reacts or responds in certain ways in given situations. This is often followed by considering ways in which the client may change such behaviours.
Good counselling should reduce the client’s confusion, allowing them to make effective decisions leading to positive changes in their attitude and/or behaviour. The ultimate aim of counselling is to enable the client to make their own choices, reach their own decisions and act upon them.
I do not advise clients, but help them to understand themselves better and find their own ways to cope or to resolve problems.
Counselling typically involves a series of formal sessions at a regular time and place in a private place, where the client and I can talk about the client's issues and feelings.
What is a typical session?
Sessions lasting around one hour.
Providing counselling face to face, over the telephone, or online.
Building a relationship of trust and respect with clients.
Listening to clients' concerns, empathising with them, and helping them to see things more clearly or in a different way.
Uncording - Letting go of the past
I use a unique technique for breaking the emotional connection to negative, harmful or inhibiting relationships. By incorporating visualisation and Reiki, I have been able to facilitate life changing experiences for many clients.
With this technique I don’t need to know the details of the relationships you want to release, which helps many clients feel comfortable as they may not want to disclose any particulars relating to their situation.
The session is conducted in a comfortable safe environment where you are able to relax. The session is a led visualisation – if you are unable to visualise we can use other descriptors to facilitate the session, through feelings and touch or word description .
Testimonials:
Thank you - Today I had the pleasure of a 'spiritual uncording' session with this warm and wonderful woman, who I met at the Ladies First IWD luncheon. It was both very helpful and enlightening, thank you Tessa!
‘Thank you very much for the opportunity to experience ‘uncording’ with Reiki. It worked! Things have definitely moved on for me in the last two weeks. It’s hard to explain how and why but I do feel there is significant progress for me with pulling away from ,,,,,,,,,,,, I never had a 40th birthday party last year – he didn’t want me to have one – so this week I had a 41st! For my closest friends and family, took them out for dinner and we had a ball – everyone got on famously and ………even asked if he was ‘invited ‘when he heard my plans. I felt very different when he sounded hurt when I said ‘No.’ ………is outside my circle now and I feel so much freer. So thank you Tessa for all your help.
N.C. London
Contact me
Email: tessarsimpson@mail.com Telephone: 07768586383
- Mon – Fri
- 10:00 am – 08:00 pm
- Saturday
- 10:00 am – 02:00 pm
- Sunday
- Closed
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